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Welcome to Father Time Blog. This is a collection of questions and answers that have come during our conferences this past 15 years of travel, preaching and coaching. If you have subjects you would like to have included please email me at: We are committed to praying and seeing your family healthy, growing and full of love.


In 1996 David Popenoe wrote, "The decline of fatherhood is one of the most basic, unexpected, and extraordinary social trends of our time. Its dimensions can be captured in a single statistic: in just three decades, between 1960 and 1990, the percentage of children living apart from their biological fathers more than doubled, from 17 percent to 36 percent. By the turn of the century, nearly 50 percent of American children may be going to sleep each evening without being able to say good night to their dads." 

Wow, was that statement was foretelling! Today, more 51 percent of all children born in our country are living apart from their fathers and now more than 40 percent of all new births are born to single moms

In 1965 in the Moynihan Report, then-Assistant Labor Secretary Daniel Patrick Moynihan first sounded the alarm about family disintegration and fatherlessness in our communities. "A community that allows a large number of young men to grow up in broken homes, dominated by women, never acquiring any stable relationship to male authority, never acquiring any set of rational expectations about the future — that community asks for and gets chaos." "A nation can't long flourish without the commitment of fathers to raise their sons — and, yes, their daughters, too." 

Clearly, mankind has yet to find a solution to this problem - we are only helping to make it worse. So the question is - how does God want to heal this problem? The answer was given over 2600 years ago when Malachi wrote these words, "Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the great and awesome day of the LORD comes. And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction." (Mal 4:5–6) 

Do you think the world is now is approaching, 'this decree of utter destruction'? 

I met a young man last night at coffee last night and asked him the same thing I ask most people I meet, "What has God made you life for?" His response, "Well I have friends who are forty and they still don't know why they are here on earth for, so I still got time to figure that out." His words are all too typical. I then asked him, "Do you have a dad in your life to help you find the answer to that question? His answer was, "My dad died early in my life… My mom has been a great mom, but I really don't know how to figure that out." I asked him, "Do you want some help?" This may surprise you, but almost everyone I talk to has the same answer: YES! 

Beloved one… We have a become a world a people with a thousand Facebook friends, but no fathers. The hope of Easter is that He made a way for each of us to move from destruction into blessing. We no longer have to stay stuck in the brokenness of our family's story! It all started that first Easter morning. 

The first witness to the resurrection was a women named Mary who had met Jesus on her worst day. Being accused of adultery, Jesus loved her into a new story, where she was no longer that object of lustful, brutal men stuck in her own brokenness. Mary was the first one to arrive upon that empty tomb looking for the body of the man who changed her story. She started to weep, because to her, Jesus was more than a Healer; He was the first man to father her out of the darkness of her story. Jesus came to be a father to the fatherless. When Jesus called her name she jumped into his arms. "Jesus said, "Don't cling to me, for I have not yet ascended to the Father. Go to my brothers and tell them, 'I ascend to my Father and your Father, my God and your God." (John 20:17) 

Did you read that, "My Father and your Father." Those words jumped off the page when I first read them. Jesus not only needed a Father in His story, so do we! The finished work of Easter gives us the Father we have always wanted. The Father who changes our story, forgives our past, envisions our future, loves us unconditionally and enables us to be the fathers and mothers our worlds needs right now to turn our culture away from the cliff of destruction to what Jesus calls "The Father's House." 

Maybe you're reading this email and have found yourself still stuck in the brokenness of your own father story. My latest book, "The Father You've Always Wanted" just for you. I encourage you to read it - buy it on Amazon HERE  

Happy EASTER Beloved! Easter is God's supreme act of love and justice. His love for us, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son." His Justice that "whoever believes in Him will have eternal life," so we could to have the same life Jesus had with the Father. 

Happy Easter! 


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