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Welcome to Father Time Blog. This is a collection of questions and answers that have come during our conferences this past 15 years of travel, preaching and coaching. If you have subjects you would like to have included please email me at: fathers@mac.com. We are committed to praying and seeing your family healthy, growing and full of love.

What Dad's Really Want

Father's Day. The one day a year that's all about dad's. Well, not really, because if it was, your family would let dad take the day off and go fishing, or golfing or some other anti-social dad activity, right?!

Mother's Day seems a little easier to navigate than Father's Day, doesn't it? Mom's tend to let you know their expectations for their special day. But dad's? They tend to get pretty elusive on their special day.


I've lived through my share of homemade crafts, 'Greatest Dad in the World' tee-shirts, and the latest in barbecue toys. I still have my Three Stooges tie that my son Lukas bought me after he discovered my love of that show. I remember many times telling my kids I didn't need anything when asked what I might like. Perhaps that's one of the reasons why the most popular Father's Day gifts seem more like jokes than actual gifts your dad might enjoy.

But let me share a little secret with you. Even if your dad has asked for one of those items, or expressed keen delight upon receipt of those items in the past, it's not really what he wants for Father's Day.

Trust me on this one. He may not even be aware of what he really wants. Or he may know but be too afraid to ask for it. Most dad's tell you they don't want anything special because they don't feel they've done enough as a dad to deserve anything from you. If you're a dad yourself, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

Most of the dads I coach feel as though they've failed their kids and want more than anything another chance to make a difference as a father. Dads often fell stuck in the brokenness of their own father stories, and end up passing those broken models down to their children. Here's the thing about us dads: Unless we had a great dad or mentor showing us the ropes of fatherhood in our own lives early on - more often than not we don't have a clue about what it takes to be a great dad. Without a present, loving father in our story - we end up stuck trying to be something or someone in the lives of our children that we've never personally experience ourselves. Basically, we're in uncharted waters and it's more likely that we'll sink than swim.

Maybe what your dad really wants from you on Father's Day is the answer to a question he's always been too afraid to ask: "Was I a good dad? Am I good dad?"

If your dad is still with us, he is still asking himself those questions everyday. Especially on the one day the world reserves to celebrate fathers. Perhaps the one thing your dad wants is the same thing you've been yearning for all these years as a son or daughter - A BLESSING! Why not give your dad the one gift that matters most this Father's day and let your Father in heaven use you to break those broken family cycles! Beloved, this is what I call 'Operation: Bless Up'; when kids bless their parents with the same blessing that they are longing for themselves. I have watched many a dad change through the love and blessing of his children, and through discovering the Father they've always wanted.

How many times has God blessed us when we really didn't deserve it?

Scroll down for tips on how to implement Operation: Bless Up in your family this Father's Day.

Let the blessing begin!

Ed

PS. If you're a dad and this article rings true with you, I encourage you to pass it along to your kids with a personalized note from yourself. You won't regret it.

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